Comments on: Right Now

By: Mwa

Mwa — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 10:16:30 +0000

Oh, Josie, I'm sorry you feel so bad. I want to send you a big chocolate-covered hug! (Did that sound dirty? It wasn't meant like that.) xxx .-= Mwa´s last blog ..Blurgh =-.

By: Victoria

Victoria — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:50:45 +0000

All children are different (of course!) and it does sound like Kai is harder than many. I was lucky with my eldest, in that she was pretty text book, but I still found first time motherhood incredibly hard. The anxiety and tiredness and feelings of helplessness outweighed the joyful parts and I was very worried about how I’d cope with a second child, although I knew that I didn’t want an only one. When I had my second one, I realised that my first had been a walk in the park as he really was/is hard work. I’m glad that I’ve had the benefit of hindsight from having him second, I know that a lot of phases are just that, phases and I also know that whatever happens, I’ll be able to cope. I’ve spent many hours agonising over his negativity, moods and anxieties (he’s only 5), but as he gets older I worry less as he seems to be relaxing and coming out of some of these issues.

I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a close friend when our babies were almost 1. We’d both read a book about the negative sides of motherhood and on every page I’d felt like the book was talking to me, the author knew how I felt. We started talking about it and my friend said, ‘I just didn’t get it, the author was so negative, my experience of motherhood is nothing like that’. I didn’t have the courage to speak up, but I knew then that despite sharing a lot over the previous months, we’d had a fundamentally different experience and it made me indescribably lonely. So just to say, don’t feel lonely, you have friends who understand what you are going through.
.-= Victoria´s last blog ..How to blow a bubble bigger than your dog, your child and possibly even your husband =-.

By: jay (cosmicgirlie)

jay (cosmicgirlie) — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:02:28 +0000

I’m right with you. YOu know that because we spoke about it, on the phone and on gwave. Please remember all I said, ok? And if you’ve forgotten? You just let me know ANYTIME. Because I’ll GLADLY tell you what a FREAKING AWESOME MOM you’re being right now.

Ain’t nothing wrong in working your ass off so hard to do right for your baby. And when he responds to that? You’ll know that’s the greatest feeling EVER. You only need to go watch your YouTube vid to see that.

I love you, lady, you’re an inspiration.
xxxx
.-= jay (cosmicgirlie)´s last blog ..Semi-Silent Sunday (and Saturday and Friday Night) =-.

By: Aly

Aly — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:14:17 +0000

I think you maybe wanting to label Kai so you know how to handle him.We had a tough time and still do with Caitlin.She's 4 and is a live wire.We found that we spent so much time trying to find out what was wrong we forgot how to enjoy her.I hope you get lots support from your family and health visitor as I know we couldn't of got through without their help.Take care .-= Aly´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday-Vlog:How to clean laminated flooring =-.

By: Bronagh

Bronagh — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 12:27:09 +0000

Hi Josie, this is such a brave post to write and post. What leaps off the page (erm…. screen) is your absolute love for Kai and your determination to do your best for him. Keep hanging in there.

By: Nicola

Nicola — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 14:35:54 +0000

Oh Josie. What a heart wrenching post. I remember feeling as you do only too well. And in fact I am AMAZED that you are as productive and creative and downright brilliant on this blog whilst looking after a toddler at all. My boys were a handful and I didn’t have any extra energy to place anywhere else. You are inspiring to me that you manage to be so proactive on your blog and create the time that you do in the midst of looking after a demanding child.

you are to be admired. I think you are doing great – even tho on days you feel like a failure. I think we all identify with your struggles and I send lots of love and hugs. xxxx

By: april

april — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:38:20 +0000

I come to this late and apologising and not reading the other comments, so apologies there but, you know what – today I found myself curled up in bed and crying because I didn’t think i could do it either – I can’t be a Mum to such an angry and upset little boy withsuch a stubborn sister who keeps on upsetting him and upsetting him and neither of them listen then get grumpy when queries become demands, and then throw tantrums because they don’t win a game or get to do exactly what they want and it all becaomes “How did I raise two such BADLY behaved kids” yet everyone tells me they are lovely too – its just when they are home they are like this.
and today i curled up and cried and screamed into a pillow and just clung to the moments of good i found by scraping the barrel of my memory…
and secure in the knoweldge it’ll all be the same again tomorrow – that I have to work this out somehow and i don’t know that *sniffle* bloody hell – sorry your post not mine…
You are brave and loving and corageous and you can do this – we both can.
*hugs honey*
.-= april´s last blog ..A story I was told… =-.

By: Mummy Mania

Mummy Mania — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:12:53 +0000

i’m so sorry to hear about your worries – kids often develop different stages at different times. You are brave to be so honest about finding it hard, because it is. and it sounds like you have it very hard. And i know from my own experiences this week that unanswered quetions can be very frustrating. ask for help when you can and use that suppor group you have. you’re doing an amazing job.

By: Josie

Josie — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:05:26 +0000

@Wendy, Thank you Wendy. I do love him, fiercely, and I hope that will carry us through anything else x

By: Josie

Josie — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:04:45 +0000

@Helen, Thank you for commenting Helen, that's really kind x