Comments on: Averageness and Appropriate Worry

By: Baking Mad Mama

Baking Mad Mama — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:02:16 +0000

Josie, I am so sorry. I saw this post a while back and meant to comment but completely forgot. I have no advice but just wanted to say that we are in the same boat and offer you a hug! We’ve got a speech therapy assessment session scheduled for the end of the month and I have no idea what they’re going to say. Thinking of you and lovely Kai x

By: With baited breath « Baking Mad Mama

With baited breath « Baking Mad Mama — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:59:35 +0000

[...] has been made much, much harder by the fact that the Bear is not yet talking. At all. I read Josie’s post about this subject recently and identified with every single word she said (and I’ve just [...]

By: Josie

Josie — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 20:09:37 +0000

Thank you Jo. Yes, we have had his hearing checked and it’s fine. Actually, it’s brilliant! He can hear a bin lorry from three streets over Thank you for your lovely comment x

By: Jo Beaufoix

Jo Beaufoix — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:18:22 +0000

Just got to this lovely an had to comment. I haven’t had chance to read other comments so apologies if someone else has said this but the school run beckons. First of all hugs, and I think Kai is far too young to be labelled etc, but have you had his cheering checked. He sounds very like my niece who had speech issues even though she was bright, meeting milestones etc. She also had some behavioural issues. Whilst other problems were found with her,(none major) one of the main issues was glue ear. This affected speech, balance and behaviour and now she has gromits the improvements are unbelievable and wonderful. Just a thought. xxxx

By: ella

ella — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:08:17 +0000

So sorry you’re having to go through this. Your HV sounds very good, very cautious and hopefully will be worrying you needlessly. All my children have been labelled with something as a baby and all have grown out of whatever it was – didn’t stop me worrying though, hugs xx

By: Capital Mom

Capital Mom — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:05:22 +0000

It’s good that you are being aware and taking action, even if it isn’t needed in the end. Hopefully this is a case of being overcareful.
Kai will develop into whoever he is. He is lucky to have you there with him.

By: Anne

Anne — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 13:01:46 +0000

I don’t have anything to add to the advice given above except to give another example. My son didn’t smile at me until 9 months, get the hang of rolling over until a year old and didn’t crawl until 14 months. He was behind in everything, and yes, I worried.

From that point it was fast forward though. Walking was mastered in a matter of weeks, and from starting to talk 3 months ago he now has a vocabulary in 3 figures (even if the majority of it is CBeebies related).

They all develop differently, and once a certain switch flicks in their head, it may surprise you how quickly things happen, so being ‘behind’ may not be a problem as the catch-up is so swift.

Best wishes to you and your adorable and unique son

By: Cathy at nurturestore

Cathy at nurturestore — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 11:04:39 +0000

Hi – I think I’m going to echo what others have said, but your post was very interesting and I didn’t just want to read and run. I met someone today who didn’t start talking until they were 3 and is now a chatty and confident woman. On the otherhand I agree that if your child could benefit from support then it’s better to start this as soon as you can. And although some might think the HV is over-reacting – and perhaps is – I agree this is better than not listening to you and dismissing your concerns. However this turns out, your son is lucky to have such a committed mother, who knows him so well and celebrates who he is, just how he is. Hope you’ll let us know how he gets on.
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By: carolb

carolb — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:03:12 +0000

I haven’t had time to read through the other comments here, but I’m sure the majority say not to worry…and are full of reassuring stories.
A friend’s son didn’t really have any words until he was two and a half, then he just started talking and you can’t tell his ‘slow development’ apart from any one of his peers.
Also I have spent a lot of time wondering if my daughter’s socialising skills are lacking, as you describe, she is very much on the outside of play when other kids are around, (she’s two and a half)
but actually what I really believe is that the majority of comparisons whether to expected milestones or to other children lead to unnecessary stress on parents’ part.
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By: april

april — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 13:24:11 +0000

Hey hon – i come late to this but I have some input – the social skills and stubborness and exacting behaviour sounds like my bub1 – exactly like her – we took her to music group and she would NOT do anything, would NOT share the drum, would NOT play with the other children – she has been and always will be fixated on how she wants things to be, is fixated on this and will not budge, everything had to go exactly her way EXACTLY – only in the last year (at 9) has she realised the profit of compromise – although she is still incredably stubborn and exacting. The speech sounds like Bub 2 – he didn’t speak till later and then had his own language entirely that we, as a family, knew and understood – by the time he hit preschool he was speaking, a little, but had missed a whole set of sounds entirely – still struggles with “S” even after speech therapy – but he didn’t need to talk – at first Bub 1 did it for him, and I anticipated his needs and then we all understood his language anyway – there was no need for him to so he didn’t – he may well have been almost 2 before any more than 3 words were put together. I have very strong memories of Bub 1 and my parents struggling to get her to do something their way and her getting so upset, she just couldn’t deal, and also my parents and bub 2 asking him questions , as old as 4, and them not understanding what he said – we did and his kindergarten teacher did – but it wasn’t ‘regular’ speech.
I think it is wise to be cautious but also try not to be too scared, there is so much that can be done if there are issues.
And both my Bubs are now quirky and themsleves but when it comes down to it no real problem children – not in a medication constant treatment sense anyway.
Hope this has helped – sorry about blather and *hugs* for both of you.
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