Comments on: Not what I thought

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 20:50:50 +0000

Hi Josie, just wanted to let you know that I have nominated this post as my favourite of 2009 on BMB

http://britishmummybloggers.ning.com/forum/topics/best-blog-posts-of-2009
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..The art of letter writing =-.

By: Chacoy

Chacoy — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 23:36:09 +0000

It doesn’t get any easier, my son is ten and I am wondering where that cute smile, the kisses and hugs just because, the cuddling, reading time, just being went. The part that kills me and breaks my ♥ everytime is the MOM, MOM, MOM, “What?” “I LOVE YOU” it gets me everytime! The only thing that gets better is the back talk, lying, rolling of the eyes, slamming doors, throwing fits, and making us look as “Scary” as they can. The one thing that I can tell you Josie is to get a hobbie, like drinking smoking, drugs, oh ok maybe all of them:)NO SERIOUSLY, I AM JUST KIDDING, about all three of them, just try one at a time:O J/K Don’t be so hard on yourself, because all of those PERFECT moms that you so admire and look up to are not so PERFECT!! They have skeletons in their closet but aren’t like us and admit it; and admire and look up to real moms like you and I who aren’t PERFECT but look like it to them!!!
Hope this helps:)
Chacoy
.-= Chacoy´s last blog ..We Are All Scary Mommies!!!!!!!!!!!! {IF YOU THINK YOUR NOT, YES YOU, YOUR IN DENIAL!!!!} =-.

By: Iota

Iota — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 18:19:35 +0000

Came to this post from Tara at Sticky Fingers.

One of my children is much more of a mystery to me than the other two. And that leads to frustration, because I just don’t understand what is going on in his head. One thought that made a big difference to me, is that a child is a parcel to be unwrapped. I found that so helpful. Up to then, I think I’d seen children as dough to be moulded. Seeing them as parcels to be unwrapped made the mystery seem full of potential, rather than frustrating (or the ‘isolating and confusing’ that you describe).

Just my ha’pennytworth.

By: S Club Mama

S Club Mama — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 02:31:06 +0000

Oh dear…I wasn’t expecting to cry while reading these Scary Mommy posts. But here I am. Crying because I understand (and I’m so glad I’m not alone).
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By: Scary Mommy

Scary Mommy — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:37:51 +0000

This post? Perfection. I loved every word of it– you captured motherhood so beautifully!

“And yet it is not a fairytale love. At times it is dark, it is agonising, it unravels me and balls me back up again over and over, every minute of every day.” Love that. So, so true.

By: Jen @ buried with children

Jen @ buried with children — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:48:36 +0000

this is a beautifully honest post. I LOVE it!

By: Stone Fox

Stone Fox — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:41:46 +0000

my son is also a strong (well, unbreakable) willed child. he is four and a half now, and it’s only JUST starting to get a bit easier. almost everything is still an argument and a fight and the attitude and backtalk is unreal.

like you, i had this dream idea of what kind of a mother i was going to be before i had kids. also, what kind of kids i was going to have. my kids were going to be well behaved, kind, gentle, loving souls. well, i got some of that, plus temperamental, aggressive, loud, rude, destructive, etc, etc, etc..

my 4 year old boy has taken to asking me, “mom, are you settled down now?” when i start to yell. no matter how many times i try to explain to him that nobody listens when i talk nice, he still doesn’t get it. all the “experts” say how you need to teach your kids to express feelings, but it doesn’t always work. i tell my kids, “mommy is getting frustrated that you are not listening,” but honestly? my kids don’t really give a shit. so what am i supposed to do? yelling is not the best way, but it sure gets kids’ attention.

obviously, i fail at mothering. lots. but i sure love my ankle-biters; at least i got that part right.
.-= Stone Fox´s last blog ..The Stomach Flu: Not Just for Yakking on Yourself Anymore =-.

By: Loukia

Loukia — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 15:15:02 +0000

Lovely post… you are not alone… every mom has challenging days… it’s not easy… but the love, the love is real and fills our hearts every single moment.

By: golden girl

golden girl — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:05:35 +0000

thank you for sharing your story. i feel that my love is not a fairytale love either. not sure if anyone really has that love completely. i think it comes and goes, depending on the situation. somedays my kiddo makes me want to pull my hair out and leave. other days he is sweet and loving and reminds me of the little boy i once knew and adored. take care. .-= golden girl´s last blog ..I'm Super Scary =-.

By: SandyCalico

SandyCalico — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:37:16 +0000

Beautiful post Josie.
I have so much going round my head right now that I think I may have to write my own post on this instead of filling up your comment space.
I hope you and Insomniac Mummy don’t mind x
.-= SandyCalico´s last blog ..She’s a Model and She’s Looking Good =-.